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Wednesday, December 3, 2008
denial's more than just a river in egypt
Why is it that people often choose denial as their first method of defense? I know people that will deny any wrong doing no matter how blatant or obvious the wrong doing is. Why is it so hard for people to fess up to making a mistake? Are we really that prideful?
The easy and obvious answer to that rhetorical question is yes. People are truly that prideful. I can see no other reason why denial would be such a common defense. Aside from denial being a proud reaction, it also makes an assumption that can be quite offensive when you really look at it.
When a person simply denies the obvious, they are assuming that you are dumb, ignorant, and/or stupid enough to buy the denial. They're basically saying, "You're such a big idiot that I can easily pull the wool over your eyes and deny doing the very thing that you just witnessed me doing. In fact, you'll probably forget you even saw me you moron. What's it like to be so stupid? Loser." I don't know about the rest of you, but I find that offensive.
So next time you choose to deny doing something to somebody who watched you do it, think about what you're really saying to that person, and how offensive it is...not to mention how silly and ridiculous you make yourself look.
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Have you seen the news show that had a hidden camera in a hotel room and then confronted the cleaning staff who were caught stealing? With the evidence right there on film, and even admitting that indeed that was them on the screen, they denied that they had stolen anything!! It was unbelievable!
I think people believe if they say it loud enough and often enough you will eventually believe them.
As far as pride being the motivator, I am not sure it is always pride, I think fear of reprisal plays into it too. Whatever the case, owning up to it is so much better in the long run.
I deny the fact that I am about to post another blog. O.k., I am.
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